The Best Way To Get Over Someone

So a little while ago I was seeing this girl and I'd say we hit off pretty good from the start. It was one of those relationships where we'd see each other every day for like the first week. It was fun, casual, light hearted but still cutesy. Then she started with the "I feel like I have known you forever" talk and the "I feel so comfortable around you" blah blah blah you get the point. I don't think it ever got to the point where she called me Joshy. If a girl calls me Joshy it usually means she has a good amount of interest (if ya know what I mean). I know that might sound funny but it has been my experience that once they call me Joshy then the games are over and the deal is sealed.

So after we had a little DTR (for those outside of Utah that means, Determine The Relationship) we decided that it'd be best if we went our separate ways and remain just friends. I think there was mutual pain between the two of us that night as she left. I wasn't head over heels for this girl, however I have to say it was nice to have someone fun/cute to spend some quality time with wink wink nudge nudge.  It helped knowing that she wasn't exactly what I was looking for and so I'm already over it.

Which gives great segway to this story... It was a couple years ago we were having a Calle warehouse sale and this big burly rodeo woman in her late 30's came in to the warehouse. She had a little hitch in her step almost like she just finished riding a horse to get there. This lady and I hit off right away. She was even ready to wrestle right there on the spot, no joke. She had the charisma and swagger that I'm all about and feed off of. She wanted to know why I wasn't married yet and I told her I was just getting out of a relationship back then. Maybe seeing the pain I felt at that time she offered me some sincere counsel that I just had to laugh at. She said the BEST way to get over someone is to get under someone else.... Pause. Now and think about it for a moment and here comes the chuckle. Now I'll agree that's probably not the best advice but it did bring a smile to my face which does help a achy heart.

Cereal Dater

Recently I was fly fishing with my friend Conley on the Provo River and as all good fisherman do we told stories to pass the time until we reeled in some fish. The fish never came in quite like we imagined they would, but the stories came in by the dozens. Those of you familiar with the Utah dating scene know that dating is a big deal (ok that might be the understatement of the year). Anyway so my buddy and I got talking about some of our dating successes & failures. We'd told each other of the funny dating stories as well as the horrific ones. After visiting for a brief moment I experienced a moment of clarity and realized that some of the girls I date seem to resemble the cereal I eat. You might ask yourself, how so? Simply put they are nutty and flaky. To be fair though they probably think that I'm crazy too. Ha ha Oh the joys of dating.

I've been taking out a wide variety of girls due to a encounter I had last year at bible study. I was introduced to a new girl from San Francisco through a mutual friend. I could be wrong but I believe this girl was under the impression that me and most guys would be interested in her on face value alone. That may be the case with a lot of guys, but to be honest that wasn't the case with me. I hadn't been talking to her more than 15 seconds before she was looking over my shoulder and then behind her to find whatever it was she was looking for. I had asked her a question that she failed to answer because she was so disinterested in the conversation. Shortly after our "conversation" I met another girl named Brooke that was off in the corner all by herself. I went and introduced myself as I typically will to someone who's all alone in big social gatherings. We visited for quite a while and to this day her character has changed me. She may not have been the most attractive girl there, the most fit, or even the most fashionable, but she very well may have been the most comfortable.

She had a special aura about her that told me she knew who she was, what she stood for, what she had to offer to the world and was completely confident in that knowledge. She also had a big hearty laugh (which I'm such a sucker for) that pleasantly caught me off guard. This laugh also witnessed to me that she was comfortable in her own skin. Sure a lot of people may overlook Brooke just as I was overlooked by the San Fran girl. Reflecting back on it I'm glad that I was overlooked by the San Fran girl because it allowed me the opportunity to meet a new friend in Brooke.